Sara arrives feeling pretty good about her week. The very idea that she had control over things allowed her to separate herself from the drama as it unfolded. She felt herself about to react, but stepped back and walked away from the situation.
As she sits and talks to Greg, he notices her stop every once in awhile. A hesitation before she speaks. He asks her about it. She confides that she’s not sure she trusts herself.
In mindfulness there are three key mind traps we all fall under: Negative Self-Talk, Habitual Styles of Thinking, and Negative Interpretations.
Many of us are negative self-talkers. We all have this nasty little bugger – our inner critic. That inner critic who stops us in our tracks, limits our dreams, and holds us back from doing great things. Sara is dealing with her inner critic this week and it’s time to face it head on.
Let's try a few questions to reframe the inner critic.
- Inner critic: "You aren't worthy."
- Why am I not worthy? What have I done to make that so?
- Is this someone else's view? Who? Why did they think that?
- What do I think I have to do/be in order to be worthy? Why?
- If just for today, I knew that I was worthy of everything, what would I do?
Pay attention to your inner critic. Write down what it says to you and try to reframe it. Make notes in your journal. And, as required, use mindful breathing to assist you.
“Thought is cause: experience is effect. If you don't like the effects in your life, you have to change the nature of your thinking.” Marianne Williamson